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ADA Center

http://www.nwadacenter.org

http://wata.org

http://www.dsb.wa.gov

http://fortress.wa.gov/dshs/maa/CHIP/Index.html

http://www.ddc.wa.gov

http://www.wsdsonline.org

http://odhh.dshs.wa.gov

http://www.dshs.wa.gov/ddd

http://del.wa.gov/development/esit/Default.aspx

http://www.soundoptionsgroup.com

http://www.k12.wa.us

http://www.disabilityrightswa.org

http://www.washingtonrelay.com/

http://www.k12.wa.us/specialed

http://www.wtbbl.org

http://www.access.wa.gov/

http://www.seattleu.edu/ccts

http://www.depts.washington.edu/chdd

http://www.k12.wa.us/careerteched

http://www1.dshs.wa.gov/dvr

http://www.chadd.org

http://www.addresources.org

http://www.nwesd.org/autism

http://www.autismsocietyofwa.org

http://www.afb.org

http://www.csbps.com www.sightconnection.com (Adaptive Aids Store)

http://www.biawa.org

http://www.epilepsynw.org

http://www.arcwa.org

http://www.ldawa.org

http://www.wslha.org

3 – Organizations for Parents

http://www.p2pp.org/

http://www.multiculturalfamilies.org

http://www.wastatepta.org

http://www.wapave.org

http://www.stompproject.org

http://www.arcwa.org

http://www.ilru.org

http://www.ncil.org

http://www.provail.org

http://www.wa.easterseals.com

http://www.wapave.org

http://www.summitdogs.org

http://www.vsaaw.org

http://www.fathersnetwork.org

http://www.familiestogether.org/

These are photos shared by stillbirthday families, of their children who lived and who died.  You can click this link to return to photos main.

The photos of babies held here have been shared by stillbirthday families.  They are our babies who died after birth, from the ages of newborn to toddlerhood.   (You can click here to return to photos main).

“I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made; my soul knows it very well.”

Psalm 139:14 ESV

& TFMR Resources

This section includes facing the decision of termination for medical reasons in a singleton (TMFR) 
or in a multiples pregnancy (selective reduction).

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Selective Reduction is a difficult decision families may face when pregnant with multiples.  If one or more multiple potentially pose a danger to the health or wellbeing of the mother and/or siblings, the pressure to face this difficult decision may be even greater. Because there are many different facets to such a difficult decision, we’ve divided them here to start with a general platform, simply to remind you that very fact – that there are many facets to such a difficult decision.

Regarding Loss after Medically Assisted Conception

• Loss after ART

Regarding Selective Reduction specifically Here are external links to resources that are specific to selective reduction:

• In Embracing Laura , Martha Wegner-Hay tells her story of grief and joy after discovering she was pregnant with twins, that one twin would not survive, and giving birth to her healthy son, David. After being told that one of her twins had almost no chance of survival and that the sick baby could affect the chance of survival of the healthy twin, Wegner-Hay and her family made the difficult choice of selective reduction. Embracing Laura tells of the wrenching collision of sadness at Laura’s death, and the joyous experience of David’s healthy birth.
• Outside the Circle of Grief

Regarding Decisions & Loss

• Prenatal Testing support
• In a deep desire to be sensitive, one of the facets of such a decision does include TFMR (termination for medical reasons), the intentional termination of life of one or more of the babies, and so with this introduction to this facet you might visit our starting place for elective abortion as it does hold information that may be applied into the very specific situation of TFMR such as selective reduction as well.

Regarding NICU

• The NICU can be a difficult place to be in, emotionally, for any reason you may be there.  Our NICU support resources are here to help.

Regarding Multiples

• Here is our start page regarding multiples, which links to additional outside resources for pregnancy challenges and support, birth plans and bereavement support.

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Whether your experience involves the NICU, surrogacy, fostering, adoption, divorce or birth trauma, if in any way your experience includes grieving your losses of a child who is still alive, we are honored to hold your story here at stillbirthday.  You are not alone.  I invite you, to share your story of what we call Living Grief – that is, grieving someone – or, aspects of your relationship with someone – who is still alive.  We also have a section of stories here  at stillbirthday called Stewarding Grief, a place to share about the difficult decision NOT to try to conceive.

Here is a list of helpful resources specific to the reality of NICU grief.

Our collection of resources and support for Child Death also speaks into numerous situations in which there is a combined parental role of both mourning and rearing children.

You can always simply share your story, and it will be added into the story places that it fits in best.

{   Please, visit our Child Death page of resources and support  }

A staggering number of beloved babies die during pregnancy, birth and shortly after birth.  And, mothers die during these times, as well.  Some studies indicate that every 90 seconds a mother dies in childbirth.

In some pregnancy situations, it is known before the birth that childbirth is a potential danger to the mother’s life, as in most ectopic pregnancy and in some elective abortion situations.  And in other situations the death of the mother is sudden and unexpected.  Below are some resources and support.  You are also invited to share your story of losing a mother /spouse during pregnancy, childbirth or shortly after birth.  These stories are held in our Maternal Death collection of stories.

These sections below are always being filled in.  Please check back soon for more resources.

General Bereavement Support

While some of the aspects of loss can be universally incorporated, such as:

• how loved ones can support bereaved
• funeral planning
• siblings support
• fathers support

Below are resources and support specific to maternal death:

Needs of the Motherless Newborn

• smells of mother, breastmilk, how to change a diaper, skin-to-skin with father, safety
• long term needs of the motherless child

Needs of the Suddenly Single Parent

• employment related concerns, FMLA, postpartum doula (guidance in caring for the newborn, sleep, rest, space for planning, permission to grieve), farewell planning support, bereavement support
• challenges associated with identifying maternal support for children
• when the time may be right in his life, to allow for an intimate relationship for himself

Prevention & Support Resources

• White Ribbon Alliance
• Holding Umbrellas: balancing new postpartum mental wellness with bereavement from a previous loss
• Crisis Hotlines for suicide-vulnerable mothers
• Hope Edelman – Motherless Daughters
• Send Hope
• Living Child
• Women Deliver
• Reeds of Hope

Spiritual & Emotional Support

• Biblical Accounts

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Silas Bengt Hoffman, born into heaven September 13, 2014 at 42+2 weeks gestation. 8 lbs 8 oz, 21 3/4″ long.

“Let the little children come to me…for the Kingdom of God belongs to such as these.”

Mark 10:14

“However you treated the least of my brothers or sisters, you treated me,” says the Lord.

Matthew 25:40