stillbirthday CONNECT app

 

Stillbirthday is so entirely excited to announce that we are officially creating an app!

ALL advertisement & sponsorship inquiries need to know how you can be part of this while promoting your organization and work here at stillbirthday!

Take a peek at what it’s looking like:

 

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Functionality:

1.  A database collection of care providers and their basic contact info.
2.  A database collection of bereaved individuals/families and basic contact info.
3. Search for and return a list of care providers matching search criteria.
4. Plotting care providers on a map of the world.
5. Showing bereaved individuals which care providers are currently online.
6. Provide a private chat/communication channel between both parties.

To Include:

As a doula: birth plans for each gestation.  Photos of what to expect at each gestation at birth.  NICU resources, national  probono resources for clients (photographers, NICU photographers).  Questions for clients to ask at each gestation regarding ability to take baby home/burial info.  List of major perinatal diagnoses and complications of birth.  Quick chat window for doulas that other SBD can log into, and be notified if there is a pending post/question.

As a mom or loved one: explanations of all birth methods, including for example D&C or D&E and step by step what to expect (both for clients and as a doula)
Quick links to parent resources (the SBD for parents section stuff)
Quick link to SBD doulas, maybe with a location circle (range where we serve)

And, the SBD CONNECT app will have full functionality to grow and serve even better as we continue to grow.

Access:

The first example that comes to mind for the power of such an app is this:
A mother attends her regularly scheduled ultrasound appointment, alone.  At the appointment, she learns that her baby is not alive, and there she is, alone, and devastated.  She may have a pregnancy app on her smartphone, one that gives her updates about the gestational growth of her baby by week, and tips for full term live childbirth.  The app doesn’t talk about the possibility of loss.  There she is, alone, with only her phone.  Maybe then, or maybe later, she will uninstall the app.  If then, while still in the app store, there can be an opportunity for her to find stillbirthday.  To find hope, dignity, and healing.

The SBD CONNECT app will be available for all Android and Apple devices.

CONNECT with us about our APP!

We’ll be announcing even more details about the app as they emerge, but right now I want to offer a tremendous THANK YOU to the SBD doula class of April 2014 – our current session – for their creativity to generate such an opportunity for connection as this, for their brainstorming and collaboration to grow the momentum for it to become created, and, for their networking and sharing the idea with their loved ones.  Ultimately, it is a bereaved father, the husband of a soon-to-be SBD doula, who is creating the stillbirthday CONNECT app!

Do you have an idea you’d like to see included in this new and extremely valuable way to get connected prior to, during or after birth in any trimester?  Use the form and tell us about it.

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Help stillbirthday CONNECT!

Even with the tremendous generosity of Gil himself in creating, launching and maintaining our app, the reality of it isn’t free.  We need to raise $5,000 to make the stillbirthday CONNECT app a real, functioning part of our growing support and ability to serve every family.  Because one of our longstanding statements is this:

Every mother has the right to choose to have a doula.  Every, mother.  For birth, in any trimester.

Those who give at:

  • {Level 01} $5 increments each will be entered into one surprise giveaway item.
  • {Level 02} $50 level will be announced, with a business or blog link if you have one, on our facebook page.
  • {Level 03} $100 level can hold a business logo or personal photo here on the page.
  • {Level 04} $250 level can hold a business logo or personal photo on the right sidebar of our website for 3 months.
  • {Level 05} $500 level can hold a business logo or personal photo on the right sidebar of our website for 6 months.

All financial supporters will have first access to our news, updates, contribution ideas and more via email.  This is an incredible advertisement opportunity for you!

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Gil shares in his own words:

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A man can be many important things in this life…hard-working provider, loving husband, and attentive father. Society generally supports and even encourages these roles among men. But one role most men are never prepared for and one that society almost completely ignores, is that of a bereaved father.

 

Losing a child is something no one should ever have to experience, but too many couples do go through this terrible tragedy. Until it visits you personally, understanding how life-changing infant loss can be, is something few can fathom. After our first son was born in 2004, we experienced our first miscarriage in 2006. This was to be our first of four miscarriages that would forever change the course of our lives.

 

Like most families that go through a miscarriage, we assumed this was just one of those rarely spoken of ‘risks’ involved in pregnancy. It was certainly not surprising to me personally, since I had experienced the loss of my unborn sister before my only brother was born, so miscarriage was something I had worked through as a young boy. But my role had changed dramatically. I was no longer an observer, someone connected to the event but still on the outside of the ‘inner-circle’. Now I was on the inside and it was different.

 

We conceived again in 2008 and our second healthy boy was brought into this world. Then our fourth pregnancy in early 2010 ended in a miscarriage when our 12 week ultrasound revealed no fetal heartbeat. This one hit harder. We were shocked and disappointed beyond belief. Not again. We recovered and tried again later in 2010. Another miscarriage. And another in the summer of 2011.

 

In the midst of these losses, we found strength in each other and in the hope that because we are children of a risen Savior, these deaths were not forever, were not the final word on the lives of our four children we would never hold in our arms in this lifetime. We know that we will be reunited in eternity with our dear children and despite the pain and questions we were experiencing then, our Lord had a purpose for all of this. Out of the struggle of our miscarriages and efforts to comfort one another and find answers, we began to find that purpose. Marcia was moved to start a local support group for pregnancy and early infant loss and with the help of her friend Amanda, One Moment was born. Death and pain gave birth to life and comfort.

 

Our pregnancy journey was not to end there, and in the summer of 2012, after much holistic effort to bring Marcia to optimum health, we conceived again. This time was different, we both felt it, though careful to keep our emotions in check. In June of 2013, our perfect and healthy little girl, our rainbow baby, was born. It was time to be a daddy to another of my precious children.

 

Through this terrible, beautiful journey, I was called upon to be a comforter, encourager, friend, companion, helper, lover, confidant, and defender to my precious wife. This journey served to knit us closer like no other life experience in our eleven years of marriage.profilePic
It has deepened both of our faiths and shown us a side of ourselves we had not met yet. Our journey through multiple-child losses has awakened a desire to support and care for others that have or will travel this dark and desolate road. We have come through ‘the other side’ and we can now better walk with those that are still traveling, knowing that there is ‘the other side’.

 

Thank You to:

  • Toby (level one)
  • Natalie Welanetz (level one)

 

Sibling Rings

Love Wildly is going to be the slumber party of all slumber parties, a weekend of fun, courage, tears and hugs.  It is going to change your life.

And I love talking about it, because the more I do, the more people know about it and can plan on attending.

But I also know that there are so many who want to attend and who can’t.

And, more than you know, this hurts my own heart.

 

So, I’ve been thinking of some ways to include everyone, because my heart is one created for inclusivity.  It’s just the way it’s made.

 

Here are the two newest parts to Love Wildly, and I’m really, really excited about them!

 

1. M0M Letters

If you’re a M0M longing to attend Love Wildly but you’re almost entirely certain that it’s just not going to happen for you, I’ll love for you to write a letter.  Write a letter to share a little of what your journey is, and how we can hope for you.  It will be anonymous, but we’ll read your words aloud.  There is strength in numbers and your words being spoken in a circle of sisters who truly do “get it” is powerful, and I am believing with every morsel of my soul that it is a power that can reach through time and space and that reach you wherever you are at, at the precise moment you need to feel it most.  Love.

You can use the little form below, or write your letter and send it to:
The M0M Center

11117 N. Oak Trafficway

Kansas City MO 64155

2. Sibling Rings

We know the numbers of pregnancy and infant loss are huge.  We know it, because we are it.  And while Love Wildly has a very strong emphasis on us M0Ms, there’s also DaDs (we’re having a DADchelor party on the Friday night!), and, there are tons, tons, tons of surviving siblings.  Kiddos, both young and old, toddlers, teens and adults, who are siblings of children who aren’t alive, who died in gestational infancy or older.

And I think, a lot of the kiddos are hurting.  A lot.  But I also think that even the hurting ones have talents, gifts, and things that make them laugh.  I think each one has a desire, a hope, a wish.  They have a favorite toy or a dream of what they want to be when they grow up.

And these really good things can represent the person.

So, here’s the opportunity.

Sit down with your kiddos, with these “surviving siblings” – maybe they are “sunshine” kids (born before their beloved sibling not alive), or “rainbow” siblings (born after) – wherever they are in the birth order, for this activity we’re making “sibling rings”.

 

Remember making paper garland?  This is how it works:

Take brightly colored construction paper.  Let each kiddo choose his or her favorite color, actually.

Hold the paper vertically – straight up and down.

Cut a one-inch-thick strip from the top of the paper (the shortest side).

Bring out the markers, crayons, glitter, whatever you’ve got, and let each kiddo create a paper strip that depicts what they like, what they want, what they love.

 

Unlike paper garland, do NOT glue the ends together to form the circle.  We will do that later.

Gather the strips from your kiddos and, after they’ve completely dried, mail them to:

The M0M Center

11117 N. Oak Trafficway

Kansas City MO 64155

 

You will be able to see the garland decoration this will become, in the professional photos taken by Anecdotally Yours, of Love Wildly.

For M0M Letters, if you’d like you can use the quick little form below:

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Sponsor a Student from our Waiting List

You can sponsor any student into our doula program.

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Stillbirthday provides a globally respected comprehensive birth & bereavement combination certificate doula program. In addition to doctors, nurses, midwives and funeral home staff, many of our doula students are bereaved mothers themselves, who long to bring a bit of hope and healing to other hurting families.

You can click here to view Completed Sponsorships.

 

About SBD Student Sponsorship

Information for Students

Information for Students If you would like to be listed as a student on our waiting list, please use the contact form below. Students, as your name appears in our listing, please be sure to share this with your loved ones so that they can contribute to your training, and check back often as your status is updated. If you’d like to note your state/country in your application, you might find a corresponding state SBD Team who may also have fundraising ideas for your sponsorship. Please note that this program is not for you to self-pay at a discounted price: this program is so that we can humbly allow our loved ones to support us in our desire to help support others. If you are the one submitting payment, a gift letter from each sponsor may additionally be required. Also, your enrollment into a session is complete after your sponsorship is complete. The time it takes to complete your sponsorship therefore can impact which session you are a part of. Once your sponsorship has been complete at the exact amount, your name will be moved to the Previously Sponsored page and you will find your name on the Class Roster.  Finally, this is the only link approved for generating academic funding for stillbirthday.  In the event that a self-promotion solicitation website has been utilized, such as “go fund me,” this link itself is required to be prominently displayed.  This simply ensures the integrity of the prospective student and the pursuit for tuition assistance.

If you anticipate an extended time before your sponsorship is complete, please feel invited to join our SBD U Sponsorship group where you can receive encouragement and sponsorship awareness raising ideas and support.  This is also a super simple way of staying connected in preparation for your session!

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Information for Sponsors

Information for Sponsors Student sponsorship can be made by loved ones, the general public, or businesses/organizations. Because stillbirthday’s longstanding passion is to see that every mother is supported in birth in any trimester, there is a special discount for students seeking sponsorship. Class tuition is $250, but for students on the sponsoring waiting list, registration is reduced to $125.

Related: The Privilege to Give Students are listed in chronological order from time of application, with the most recently added last. Your financial contribution is applied toward tuition for the first student listed, unless you are a loved one of a waiting students and make notation of who you are sponsoring in the field below.

Sponsors: Loved Ones Sponsors, if you are a loved one to a student, please use the form as well as the yellow payment button, to indicate which student you are sponsoring (if you do not use the form, after 7 days it will be credited toward the first student on our waiting list).

Pending Appointments This section is where any current sponsorships are announced that we are waiting on the sponsor to appoint a student. Using the form as you submit your sponsorship helps expedite the process by skipping this step. If you can identify your payment here, please use the form below to indicate which student you are sponsoring. If in this interval the student is over-funded, sponsors will be refunded based on highest or first sponsorship first.

 

Sponsor a Student Here

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After completing your purchase, please enjoy our Thank You letter.

 

 

Student Waiting List:

 

NEWEST STUDENTS & SPONSORS are listed at the newest space of the page, which is easiest to access by scrolling to the end of this page.  Previous year entries are still active, but are archived to make this page more streamlined.  Newest entries are always updated as quickly as possible, and you can always email Heidi.Faith@stillbirthday.info to expedite the process.

 

2016

Alyson Trent – {Kentucky} – {since 01.02.16}

Kathleen Rouleau – {Massachusetts} – {since 01.06.16}

Elizabeth Drumheller – {Minnesota} – {since 01.07.16}

Amanda Meyer – {Wisconsin} – {since 01.07.16}

Cherish C. – {Arizona} – {since 01.31.06}

Charmaine – {Ontario, Canada} – {since 02.02.16}

Natalie A – {Connecticut} – {since 02.10.16}

Carrie Ann – {Illinois} – {since 02.13.16}

Michelle Ikwumonu – {BC Canada} – Hello everyone, After losing my son, Malaki, I felt lost and some days I still do. Mostly nights nearing the eve of the night we lost him. The night before our due date. My son has taught me so many lessons and I am so very grateful for that. I don’t know why he left but I do know I cherish every moment I carried him. I cherish every second of my labor. I cherished holding him for that short while he was earthside until we had to bury his vessel. I’m so blessed he chose me to be his mother. I want to honor my son and the lessons and gifts he has shared with me by supporting women during their labor. I felt since I have lived experience with such a huge loss, that I could really connect with couples that have to deliver their stillborn. I want to be able to assist in any way I can during both live and still births. It is such a sacred space. I know this is a part of my life journey. This is what I’m meant to do. I’m asking for sponsorship to help pay for the cost of my training. Any amount will help me reach my goal. Thank you in advance for reading a part of my story.~ Love and light. ~ Michelle Ikwumonu. {since 02.22.16}

Valeria R. – {Missouri} – Hi, thank you for taking the time to consider helping. I am married to my wonderful husband and we have four beautiful children. I have always enjoyed helping others and have worked in the medical field. I have a passion to work with people and listen to their needs. My goal is to be able to experience with families the joy of birth and to share the hope in the loss of a child. I believe that my hardship as a mother will contribute to this journey. If you feel it in your heart to help me reach my goal I thank you in advance. God Bless. {since 03.09.16}

Melissa M. – {Michigan} – My name is Melissa and I an the mother to 2 beautiful boys who live on in our hearts and an amazing daughter who is 5. I am a facilitator of a peer led pregnancy and infant loss support group and am looking forward to serving families in loss. {since 03.09.16}

 

 

 

 In increments of $25, you can help any of these students become that much closer to their goal.
Prospective doulas, you can also join our Sponsorship group!

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Daniel’s Doulas

If you are sponsoring in any increment on behalf of Daniel DuChene and his beautiful mama LeighAnne, please simply place Daniel’s name in the “Student I’m Sponsoring” above.  We will record all sponsoring and total that here, where then LeighAnne will be able to choose how to delegate the funding for Daniel’s and Aria’s Doulas.

  • $25 – Kerri Lynn Tom
  • $25 – Amy Kelly
  • $50 – Honeyfund – Shannan Wells

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If you don’t see your name here any longer, please view our previously sponsored students, and please always know you can email the founder directly at Heidi.Faith@stillbirthday.info to make sure the lists are updated as quickly as possible.

 

Our Previously Sponsored Students:

Click here to visit our Previously Sponsored Student list.

 

 

 

 

 

 

The SBD® Doula provides support to families experiencing birth in any trimester and in any outcome.

Here at stillbirthday.info, you can learn about the SBD® Doula.