Remembering The Memory Keepers

Keepsake photography is so enormously important.  It is an important part of meeting our babies, an important part in saying farewell to our babies, and an important part in healing.

A photographer’s flash may be the very first light that breaks through the most impossibly dark days of our lives.

Stillbirthday desires to remember those who help us remember.

These are just some of the special photographers who have supported stillbirthday families.

I encourage you to spend time reading about them and visiting their websites, and to add comments to add any additional links so we reach them.  Hiring these photographers to capture your special moments supports them in a very practical way as they support those who are hurting.

To say thank you to our Memory Keepers, each photographer here is gifted with our Carly Marie Scholarship.  We will also help promote each photographer, by sharing their business information from time to time at the stillbirthday Facebook page.

{The words below are directly from stillbirthday families as they spoke with me about their Memory Keepers.  Parts of their conversations may have been edited out to preserve the privacy of those we wish to honor.  Many of these Memory Keepers are also bereaved themselves.}

Michelle Cramer

Michelle is the founder of On Angels Wings, where she provides free professional photography as well as outreaches into long-term support resources for families enduring loss.

 

Christina Newby

Christina Newby at Milestones Photography.  She is a NILMDTS photographer.  She did our photos with Aaron at the hospital.

 

Angie Thompson

Angie Thompson @ Photographic Memories by Angie.  Angie is an amazing photographer and an even more amazing friend. She donates her time and talent through nilmdts photographing and documenting the short memories of the lives of those babies gone too soon. When my son was born 12 years ago we did not have such ministries. No on talked about it. No one wanted to remember. No one, except me. Angie is one of very few how has given me permission to rejoice in my son’s short life, to recall his face, his kicks, the day he was born, and the day that he left me.

 

Simone Hanby

She is amazing and although not a birth photographer, she took photos at my last sons birth and they are sooooo fantastic. Her name is Simone Hanby from Imagine Creative Images.

 

Jamie Barton

Jamie Barton, of JamieB Photography. She is special to me because when we did our family photos for the first time a year after our loss, she helped us incorporate her and did some special pictures for me.  It was amazing to have someone so open & willing to do something so sacred & special.

 

Briana Snyder

Briana Snyder Photography – when we lost our Oliver she asked if we wanted pictures right away. She wanted to make sure we had photos and she made a sweet photo book for us and all without a single thought of charging us.

Danielle Mitchell

Danielle Mitchell Photography – she was starting a photography business and we wanted a special shoot with pictures Briana did (who was booked up) included with us so we had photos of us all together since our 2yr old never met him at the hospital.

 

Didi Miles

Didi Miles of Natural Approach Photography. Not only is she one of my closest friends and pseudo mom, she is an amazing photographer.
When I lost my baby she was a tremendous support.  And when my baby would have been due she had me come in for a photo shoot to help me feel better.  And when I got pregnant again and had my baby girl she was there to hold my hand and photograph the entire thing. She is so incredible.

 

Blair Banks

Blair of Blair Banks Photography is special for so many reasons… she started a project in his memory to teach pregnant mothers about kick counts… she took the last photographs that we have of our sweet Mason.

 

Joshua-James Newman

My special photographer is Joshua-James Newman of Joshua James Newman Designs.

 

Sarah Holst

Sarah Holst with Fresh Blend Media is amazing.  I would love to honor her somehow.

 

Steph (Lullaby Grace)

My amazing friend Steph who owns Lullaby Grace Photography she took photos of my belly before I had my angel Thomas. Been there through thick and thin and now is doing photos documenting my pregnancy with our rainbow baby.

 

Julie Matheson Dorta

Julie Matheson Dorta is my special photographer.  She did my maternity pictures when I was pregnant with Bryce and Keiran.  My boys were stillborn at 33 weeks.  When I got pregnant with my rainbow, she did my maternity shots again, for free because of all the heartache I had been through.  She has captured almost every stage of this first year, and will capture my wedding in October!

 

Christi Bernlohr

The photographer WE love is Christi Bernlohr of Bernlohr Photography. She took pictures of our son Grayson V and gave us such amazing memories. She never met us but she cried like one of us. She is amazing!

 

Rachel McCoy

Rachael McCoy photography.  The pictures will be cherished for a life time since they are all we will ever have of her.

 

Sara McConnell

Sara McConnell is a very special and respected photographer in Ottawa, Canada. She came to our Doula group and spoke to us about photographing babies who were stillborn by creating different photos for families to cherish. Sara described some of the things a parent might like to cherish and offered her services to our Doula group if we ever found ourselves supporting a family who are grieving for their baby.

 

Hallie Dedrick, Stephanie Randolph

Hallie Dedrick and Stephanie Randolph. I had a unexpected full term still birth in October 2011. My Doula (Hallie Dedrick) stayed by my side the entire time and was also there as a photographer. She captured the only pictures I will ever have of my baby boy. She took such professional quality photos in the poor lighting and the in the sad mood of my hospital room. Later she tried her best to edit the photos but never had training to do so. We talked to another local photographer (Stephanie Randolph) and she has worked for NILMDTS and was able to edit the photos for me. Now I can look at my photos and share my photos and it appears my baby has a clean completion and is peaceful. I don’t know what I would do without these ladies talents and generosity ♥

 

Marnie Pouget

A special photographer is Marnie Pouget. Marnie gave me a gift that I could never repay her for. Marnie, came to the hospital and this time took pictures of my now 8mos old son’s birth, from beginning to end. Including his double true knot. The significance of that picture alone is mind blowing.  Our Naomi had one true knot and that is why we lost her.  She has walked along our side, through both, capturing memories that I don’t ever want to lose!

 

Tiffney Smith

Tiffney Smith, of Tiffney Smith Photography! When we found out we were going to have an angel baby, Tiffney came to the hospital and took photos of us with our sweet Ava after she had passed. While she is a newborn photographer, Ava was her very first, and considering the circumstances, she did it with such care and love. Ava had some facial deformities and Tiffney never made us think she was anything than perfect. Her photos are what I will cherish for the rest of my life and I will forever be grateful.

 

Julie Wagner

Julie Wagner of Beautiful Beginnings.  It was an act of God that she came to the hospital and took amazing photos of our still born baby girl Catherine at 38 weeks. She was amazing and had never taken those kinds of photographs before.

 

Kassandra “Kassy” Beale

Kassandra Beale (Kassy), helps loss mommies by taking FREE photographs for them in remembrance of their child.

 

Elaine Zelker

Elaine Zelker was our photographer and friend at Judah’s birth. We were SO blessed to have her.

 

Kim Chandler

My special photographer is Kim Chandler, she now dedicates her free time between delivering pizzas to memorializing lost babies with pictures, including writing their names on flower petals.  She took my favorite pictures at our Remembrance Day event, and will be doing so again this year.  She is working incredibly hard to build her portfolio in order to become a NILTDTS photographer and I hope and pray she reaches her goal.

 

Patti Ramos

Patti Ramos, hands down, is amazing in all ways.

 

Connie Sorg

My friend and photographer Connie Sorg does amazing work and doesn’t charge a lot for it. She’s a sweetheart and a wonderful woman.

 

Leah Sandretzky

Leah Sandretzky- Heartbeat Photography. She is a VERY special photographer because after we lost one of our twins, born still, she drove an hour and a half out of her way to come to the NICU where our survivor was, to take family-newborn pictures for us. For FREE.  Not only that– but she also secretly took donations from friends and family to buy our family remembrance necklaces and bracelets for our lost daughter. When she received the jewelry, she went to the nearest beach, and took photos of the jewelry. AND she put out daughters name in CarlyMarie’s list to have her name wrote in the sand. When she sent the jewlery to me, she also included a cd mix of beautiful grieving songs. She is an extremely beautiful soul, so generous and amazing. I’ve wanted to do something, anything to pay her back for her generosity.

 

Bozena Olszanska

A very special photographer is Bozena Olszanska.  She took the ONLY photo of my sweet stillborn son, Oscar.  Not only did she come to the hospital, to take his photo, but she edits it every year on his birthday, with different backdrops…

 

Heather Brouillete

My friend runs hay.LO Photography. Her name is Heather Brouillete.  She is an amazing woman and photographer.  She stayed in the hospital with my husband and I while we were being induced with our angel.  She was with us day and night for 4 days.  She witnessed the birth and death of our son and captured it beautifully on film and video.

 

Chelsea Self

My special photographer is Chelsea Self from Self Reflexion – she took priceless photos of my two daughters during their very limited time here on this Earth. I’ll cherish all of the photos she took for the rest of my life – she’s amazing in every sense of the word.

 

Siri Salonen

Siri Salonen is a very special photographer!  When she heard of the birth of our daughter born without a heartbeat, Gabriella Rose, she offered the suggestion of placing something symbolic in our future photographs to represent our daughter. We chose a pink rose. Five years later, we still place a rose in professional photos of our family and of our now five living children.
Siri also edited pictures of our daughter that we took during and following her birth. Siri made us a beautiful hardcover book filled with meaningful quotations and pictures of our baby girl.  Siri is amazing, and has touched our lives in so many ways.

 

Ashley McConnell

Ashley is a one of the kindest people God ever created.  Words cannot do justice to her.

 

Rachel Bell

Rachel Bell edited the pictures, made a slideshow for her memorial, and shared her own personal story. She was a rock for us those first few months and someone we still speak with…

 

Steph Villa Davis

Steph Villa Davis is my dear friend who has a huge passion for what she does and deep heart for blessing families.  She’s in Los Angeles.

 

Cynthia Woodmansee

A photographer here in California volunteers with the organization that provides photos to parents of still born babies. Her name is Cynthia Woodmansee.

 

Ronice Sceski

Ronice Sceski from Ronice Kay Photography

 

Crystal Martin Farmer

My favorite very special photographer is Crystal Martin Farmer. She did amazing photos when we lost our son unexpectedly last year at 18 weeks gestation. She’s reserved in that she follows the lead of those she photographing. We have several of her pictures from our few moments with our son.

 

Angela Donaldson

My friend Angela Donaldson, in spite of many challenges, finds time to be a NILMDTS photographer.

 

Michelle Wortley

My friend Michelle Wortley is currently doing a photography course as she would like to be able to provide a photography service in her local hospital for anyone who loses a precious baby to stillbirth or neonatal loss.  The photos she took of Bailey were fantastic.  She is such a special friend who I met after losing my own son.  We now share a special bond.

Stillbirthday families remember our Memory Keepers 

 

Pledge a Date Night

Stillbirthday is so entirely honored to be a part of supporting the upcoming feature film Return to Zero.

As the next step in the production process, Return to Zero is working toward estimating the actual interest in their upcoming film, by encouraging you to pledge that you will indeed go to your local theatres to view it.

This film is absolutely critical in lifting the disenfranchisement of parental bereavement.

For the health of your community, for the health of the stillbirthday community, and for the health of your marriage and of your own grief journey, I implore you to pledge to see the film in theatres!  Whether you have personally been impacted by pregnancy and infant loss or not, you owe it to yourself and to the community you are a part of to watch this film.  Become what we call a stillbirthday Ally, and pledge your theatre seats.

You can also join our online event discussion, where you can find out who your own local leader is, or become one!  Many amazing individuals are local leaders – names you may recognize!  When you take the pledge, it’ll ask you if you have a local leader.  Knowing who yours is, if you have one, is just a way to keep track of how connected we all are – so get connected and peek into that online event discussion.  We have local leaders named from several US states, including Kansas, Missouri, Pennsylvania, Texas, Colorado and more!

Just click the pledge photo below to take the pledge to see the movie in theatres – it’s really that simple.   You can add Heidi Faith as your local leader, wherever you are located, but if you are outside of the Kansas City area, I’d be even more honored if you’d visit our event page to see if there is a local leader closer to your physical community, and for you to consider becoming one!

**GIVEAWAY**

If you ARE in the Kansas City area (if you are in Kansas or Missouri) and you list Heidi Faith as your Local Leader in the pledge, leave a comment below, and you’ll be entered to win two free tickets to see the film once it’s in theatres.  Yep, Heidi Faith will pay for your two tickets.  How’s that for incentive?  A free date night, while raising awareness and bringing healing.

Find the Words

April is a very powerful month.

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April is Child Abuse Awareness Month.

April is Alcohol Awareness Month.

April is Elective Abortion Recovery Month.

Spring has the highest rates of suicide.

April is the month of Debris Day.

 

Wow.

These are each enormous.

Let’s break the divisiveness.  These are incorrect statements:

  • “Alcohol should be prohibited for bereaved parents.  That way they won’t self medicate and over use it.”
  • “Bereaved parents who have living children are now unworthy of emotional support.  After all, they’ve got living children now.”
  • “Mothers who’ve endured elective abortion should be mocked and shamed and are unworthy of emotional support.”

Our grief challenges us.  Our grief is hard work.

But if you can say just one kind thing to ANY of these demographics, any one kind thing to the bereaved parents reading this page, whatever kindness you can muster, please, leave your comment below for them to read.

You just might save a life.

To say thank you, one random comment will be drawn, for one large sized greeting card selection from the beautiful Lost For Words card line.  The drawing will be held on Sunday, May 5, 2013 – Bereaved Mother’s Day

 This giveaway is now closed.  The number drawn was 10.  Congratulations, Em.  Please contact me with the card of your choice from the Lost for Words card line.

 

 

Get Mentioned in a Real Movie!

Stillbirthday, in a special arrangement with Return to Zero producer Sean Hanish, is presenting you with an opportunity to have your baby(ies) name listed in the movie.

 

In an exclusive section to appear BEFORE the other credits, the film will read:

This film was made possible through the generous donations of StillBirthday Families

Immediately below this line, will list the names of OUR BABIES!

This is a very exclusive, very special, once in a lifetime opportunity.  This is a special prominant section of the credits and will be highly visible!

There are additional things as part of this package, which stillbirthday decided to give away (these are now closed)

  • Digital Download (claimed)
  • Seah Hanish’s short films and desktop image from the film (claimed)
  • The film shooting script (claimed)
  • Soundtrack to the film (claimed)
  • One, $500 Limited Edition poster for the film, signed by the cast and director (claimed)
  • Cast & crew screening of RETURN TO ZERO and the after-party in Los Angeles*. From Sean, “This is a great way to get your name attached to a great feature-length film, build your IMDb resume, and schmooze with the cast and crew of the film. (***Does Not Include Travel/Lodging*** Estimated delivery: Feb 2014 Add $50 to ship outside the US).”

Thank you, for spreading the stillbirthday message that zeroes count, by joining in this opportunity to be a part of Return to Zero!

 

Babies’ Names

In the film credits, these read in alphabetical order

 

Daphne Grace Daggett,  Sophie Abigail Moddison, Ezra James Saffeels

Alexandra Margaret Holper (plus 1 ticket to the cast & crew screening of RETURN TO ZERO and the after-party in Los Angeles*)

Aiden Robert Roth, Jeremiah Oliver Roth (plus soundtrack above)

Aria Grace Helen Michael (8 contributers)

Baby Matthews

Grady Joseph Hertweck

Jaimison Henry Smith (4 contributers)

Harlow Marie Redmond

Boston Christine Neeb

Sawyer Erik Williams

Zoe Elizabeth Wood, Addie Kate Wood

Matilda Lauren

Jonathan Anthony Papik

Luke Donavan Irvin, Conner Ryan Irvin

Gabriel Green (2 contributors) (and script)

Julian Rafael Rodriguez (and digital download)

Jaxon Patrick Matulka (and short films)

Kendal Lizares

Makenna Allene Duff

Judah Jubilee Young, Gideon Young, Deborah Young ,Isaac Young, Naomi Young, Jeremiah Young, Hope Young, Caleb  Young, Joseph Young, Gabriel Christian Young, Isaiah Rae Young (2 contributors) (plus 1 ticket to the cast & crew screening of RETURN TO ZERO and the after-party in Los Angeles* and poster)

Cole Morgan Hatfield (plus 1 ticket to the cast & crew screening of RETURN TO ZERO and the after-party in Los Angeles*)

Aurelius James Ernest, Stella Aurelia

Sarah-Jane Kettewell

Maisie Renee Phegley

Caden Matthew Davis

Nash Austin Wheeler

Kailee Lynn Bellanger

Arianna Lynn Sparwasser, Brooke Elizebeth Geasey

Evelyn Marie Kunkel

Christopher Mac Ray, Tia Nicole Lynn, Eric Michael Edward

Morgyn Marie Veneklasen, Prestyn Alan Veneklasen

Isaac Brigham Nielson, Nielson Babies

Angelica Nye

Peyton Mark DeGeorge (plus 1 ticket to the cast & crew screening of RETURN TO ZERO and the after-party in Los Angeles*)

Ruthie Lou Lands

Grae Lingo

Pippa Gracie May

Myles Robert-Clifford Scott

Sienna Jeane Rubenstein

Timothy William Purdy Jr

William Carter Duffy

Kylie Nicole Helton

Titan John Harmon

Harper Grace Leach

Stephanie Joanna Schmaltz

Aiden Joshua

Zachary Bryan Spray

Grayson V Schratwieser

Payton Marie Johann, Anderson Chris Johann

Calan Chelton, Anduril Chelton

Caedmon Thies, Niahm Thies, Joyous Thies

Michael Rae Coronado

Peyton Grace McFadin

Levi Burt

Mackenzie Pearl Boggs

Alissa Samantha Soolayman

Lia Joy Mitchell & Siblings

Wyatt Kasey McCauley

Baby Cramer

Isaiah Christopher Ross

Landon James Richards

Baby Leighty

Jillian Rose Lee

June Lee Monte

Sophie Elizabeth Goodwin

Gabriel Sloan Franini

Baby Maureen Anne

Josiah Alan Kaminsky

Nathaniel Blake Jacquinot

Andrew Joseph Hefner, John Gerard Hefner

Kaidynn June Colburn

Carleigh McKenna Haas, Leah Faith Motter, Jordan Leigh Haas

Carter Cooper Barry

Lily Katherine Allen-Ball

Sydney Adriana Mohney

George Patrick Andrew Corr

Tossie Adaline Hill

Christopher Michael Hathaway

Josiah Craig Beimert

Corbin Walker Caruthers

Lily Isherwood-Connor

Samuel Evan Fredrickson

Noah Alexander Porsche

Colton Batchelor

Isla Michaela Johnston

Noah Scott Koning, Joanna Claire Koning, Emilie Alyse Koning

Joshie Curtiss

Ethan Charles Donaldson

Josiah Eugene Wilson

Christiana Karafantis

Steven Michael Toothe

Hannah Katherine Larsen

 

Summer 2013 Must-Have

2013 marks 25 years of official Pregnancy & Infant Loss Awareness since President Ronald Reagan signed Proclamation 5890.

Bereavement is just plain hard, isn’t it?

Is it possible at all, that we bereaved mothers can don something that is representative of our children, of our motherhood, of our bereavement, and still have it be….fashionable?

Still have it be…dare I say…sexy?

Life after loss challenges everything – including how we feel about our bodies and about our sexuality.

I believe that, for the bereaved mother who is also a wee bit daring, the Awareness belly ring could prove to be a wonderful addition to her summer attire.

I’ve got one, and I love it!  It’s a precious feeling, decorating my belly, my outer womb, with something so symbolic.

Are you signed up for our newsletter?  Because we’ll be giving one away for free in the May issue of the SBD Newsletter!

SBD Chaplains

In addition to becoming certified by a globally respected organization in birth and bereavement doula support, SBD Doulas now can advance in their knowledge, skills and services to become SBD Chaplains.

SBD Chaplains are midwives of thanatology: honoring, empowering, respecting.

Click this link to learn more about becoming an SBD Chaplain.

A GIVEAWAY!

To help spread the word about this important addition to stillbirthday support, when we reach 50 comments below, we will run a giveaway drawing of 2 special double purple cord bracelets, bound by a silver heart charm from B’Earth Angel.  The double purple cord represents the two levels of training:

  • Birth & Bereavement Doula : support prior to birth, during birth, postpartum, and follow up care
  • SBD Chaplaincy : thanatological midwifery – serving in an active role during the farewell celebration, including preparing the baby for farewell viewing, funeral and burial or other farewell celebration of the family’s choosing

Just comment that you’d like these two bracelets, for yourself and for someone you love!  Reaching 50 comments is SO EASY to achieve – have your friends all comment too that you should win, and their comments count for you!

Angel Heartbeat Bear Giveaway

This giveaway is now closed.

If you are following us on Facebook, you’ll know that we’re offering a giveaway!  Our objective with having a Facebook page is to lead families directly here, to stillbirthday, not the other way around, but if you’re already on Facebook, I invite you to find the stillbirthday page.  By the way, stillbirthday is also on Twitter.

While we provide support during the actual, physical birth of babies born in any trimester, and we provide support at any time afterward, including bereavement support, it is also important to provide trusted information regarding prevention of infant loss, and we work to lead you to the resources that provide the most trustworthy information regarding prevention, while also having the sensitivity to honor the feelings of blame and guilt that families who’ve already endured loss may feel as they learn about prevention information.

One such organization is Cora’s Story, who shares information regarding congenital heart defects and prevention, including pulse oximetry testing for newborns, after the first 24 hours after birth.

To help you remember “pulse oximetry at +24 hours”, once we reached 2,500 “likes” at our Facebook page, we decided to run a giveaway of an Angel Heartbeat Bear.  The winner can use this for:

  • her own pregnancy, particularly if she’s carrying to term a baby with a fatal diagnosis
  • after her baby has been born, to record special words of love
  • as a gift for someone else

To enter in the giveaway:

  • If you are already on Facebook, “tag” the stillbirthday page and the Cora’s Story page together with a comment to invite others to like our page.
  • If you are not already on Facebook, simply leave a comment below, stating that you are interested in winning.

One person will be selected as the winner on March 17.

The person selected was Becky, who left a comment below.  Congratulations Becky! 

 

Teeny Tears

Giveaway!

November is National Prematurity Awareness month, and just like families who endure loss and who find significance in October, this month is a tender time for families who’ve experienced the need to utilize the NICU.

November 17 is also World Prematurity Day.

This is a very special giveaway, one that is going to work a little differently than most.

In this giveaway, you will choose a hospital to have beautiful, darling, teeny diapers donated to.

Megan, the founder of Teeny Tears, shares her experience both with needing the care of the NICU, and of loss, here:

As we came closer and closer to Dex and Crew’s third birthday, I began searching for a project that would honor Dex’s memory and give purpose to my grief. I was looking for something economical, meaningful, and within my limited sewing abilities.
When my sister showed me what her friend Arah had started making for the local hospitals in Spokane, I knew immediately that I had found my answer. My heart told me that there was no turning back. I would make tiny little diapers for stillborn micropreemie infants and those that pass away in the NICU. With full support from Arah, we launched Teeny Tears last November…

please click here to read her whole story

All you have to do to enter this giveaway, is comment below, telling us:

What surprise or unexpected support did you receive during your pregnancy loss or NICU experience?

Please be sure to include in your comment, the name and city of the hospital you want the diapers donated to, and who your entry is in honor of – your own baby(ies) and/or others.  A tip: if it is a labor and delivery hospital, it will be more likely to receive the diapers than say, a children’s hospital.  If for any reason your chosen hospital can’t accept the diapers, a hospital within that community may be selected.

Two random names will also be drawn to receive one teeny diaper sent to you.

Winners (all three) will be selected on Monday, December 24 – Christmas Eve.

 

Each family receives two teeny diapers – one to keep as a momento, and one for the baby to wear.  Click the photo to watch Megan’s story.

More Ways to Get Involved

If making tiny diapers for precious babies is something you want to learn more about, please visit the Teeny Tears “How you can help” tab.

You can get involved by sewing, or by donating to Teeny Tears to help support families.

You can even start your own Stillbirthday Love Cupboard, get a group together, and make Teeny Tears diapers!  Your own Love Cupboard could be featured on the Teeny Tears list!  What a fantastic way to approach the holidays and the New Year, by making a commitment to get involved and joining in this way to help other families.

Did you know?  Preemie awareness is a pink and blue ribbon, just like the pregnancy and infant loss ribbon.

This giveaway is now closed.  There were a couple of hospitals nominated that Teeny Tears are already in the process of supporting, and a couple of duplicate comments, so those were taken out for a fair drawing.  The location selected is Akron General Medical Center in Akron, Ohio.

The Grief Dare

 

Bereavement challenges everything we know about well, everything.

It challenges our faith.  Our trust in birth.  Our understanding of pregnancy.  Our concept of parenthood.  Our marriage.  Our identity.

I have seen mothers blame their care provider, blame God, blame their husband, blame each other, and blame themselves.

Blame has a place in grief – for the short term, there can even be value in blame.

However, if you are a bereaved mother reading this, I want to challenge you to explore even more deeply.

I want to challenge you to see the obstacles that can seem attractive but actually serve to distract and even detract from our healing.

I want us to identify these obstacles, and see that their purpose is to continue to isolate us and frustrate our efforts to obtain the healing that we deserve.

If you are a mother who has experienced pregnancy loss, infant loss or child loss at any time in the past, you are encouraged to take The Grief Dare.

About the Grief Dare

One dare will be published at stillbirthday at the beginning of each week.  You will have only that week to achieve that dare.

There will be 15 dares, one dare per week.

The Grief Dare begins with the first dare published on December 31, 2012; the last week ends the weekend of Saturday, April 13th.

These dares will challenge you to strengthen your marriage, treat yourself with care, and explore areas of emotional difficulty in your grief journey.

You’ll participate in the Grief Dare by sharing what you explored and learned through each dare.  You’ll share your entry by using the Grief Dare forum.

You will be required to read, think, engage and write.

 

The Grief Dare will feature a few dares presented in The Respect Dare, a brand new book not scheduled for public release until mid-December!

At the end of the 15 weeks, a team of stillbirthday members will vote on a first place and second place winner.

 

The first place price is a hand made necklace and earring set from Dr. Laura designs!

Genuine Scrabble® tiles with images of cherubs and letters on the reverse side spelling the word FAITH.  Necklace can be worn both ways with matching earrings included and arrives in a beautiful presentation gift box.  Necklace is Amethyst, fresh water Pearls, Vermiel caps, beads and clasp, tiles sides covered with 18K Gold ink.  Necklace length 16.5 inches.
Click the photo for an even better look at this stunning set!
The Second Place prize is a lovely hand made bracelet from Eden’s Wings.

 

 

Get entered today!

Register in our Grief Dare forum. – then keep an eye out for our dares!

Update: this giveaway closed!  Congratulations to Colleen for winning first place, and for graciously gifting the prize right back to stillbirthday so that one more mother can receive a treasure!  Truly, the generosity of the stillbirthday community moves me to tears.  Thank you, so very much.

Free Advertising

With Thanksgiving approaching here in the US, the entire month of November is often a time of reflection and of identifying people, events and experiences that we are thankful for.

Here at stillbirthday, we have a program called Ripples that challenges parents to identify aspects of their experiences that have impacted them and those around them in a positive way.

One of the most important realizations I have reached through my loss experience that I am tremendously thankful for is that I am not alone.

I am not thankful that others have experienced loss, but I am humbled – profusely, profoundly, deep to my core humbled – by the courage, the care, the compassion and the love other families exhibit when they share their experiences.  When they show their deepest vulnerabilities to reach beyond our cultural fears, taboos, indifference and terrible misunderstandings of loss, to simply say to other heartbroken families

“You are not alone.”

I also know that is is HARD to put your experiences into a website.  It is HARD to have your work criticised, minimized, ridiculed, judged, lied about, and stolen.  It is HARD to see your loved ones pressure you to stop helping others, wish you’d shut your website down, and shame you into “getting over it” when the “it” they speak of, is healing, is rewarding, is productive, and is important.

Truly helping others isn’t being stuck in the most painful parts of yesterday.  It is instead helping to bring forward the most important tools to create a most healing place tomorrow – for yourself, and for others.

It is HARD to find yourself seeking legal council to defend hurting mothers against the public’s slander and dishonesty.  It is HARD to see people so recklessly forget that you are also and still a bereaved mother or father.  It is HARD to see competition rather than collaboration.

This isn’t just business.  It’s bereavement.

Stillbirthday offers unique and important resources for families, from prior to loss, during loss, and after the actual event has occured.  Stillbirthday NEEDS to be spread to midwives, nurses, obstetricians and others, because of our unique and important resources.

However, we are also a network.  A network filled with resources from all over the globe and all over the internet, resources built by other bereaved parents.  Resources that have been born out of the darkest of days, the most hurtful of experiences, and the deeepest compassion of others who lovingly and courageously say

“You are not alone.”

I am thankful for each of these organizations, each of these efforts, each of these families, each of these babies.

To say thank you, I want to let you know that I value you.  That I want stillbirthday to break those hurtful, competitive trends, and reach across these obstacles to speak the message of love, of kinship, of understanding, that you so sacrificially share to others

“You are not alone.”

Beginning January 1, stillbirthday has an absolutely wonderful opportunity for ALL bereaved families, and I want to make sure that everyone knows about it.  It is an opportunity that will be fun, challenging, inspiring, will help you grow personally and will help us grow as a community.

And, it has an absolutely stunning first place prize, worth $200!

I want everyone to know about it.

I want to challenge everyone to take The Grief Dare.

I want to extend my appreciation to bereavement organizations everywhere.  In return, let the families you serve know about The Grief Dare.

Stillbirthday is offering you two months of free advertising.  Your logo will be featured in the right sidebar for two months in 2013.

Thank you for your support in the bereavement community.  I know it isn’t easy.

To submit your bereavement organization logo, please email your logo – it must be a square – to heidi.faith@stillbirthday.info, before January 1, 2013.  Please include “free ad” in the subject line.

Click to learn more about our advertising opportunities.

Advertising with stillbirthday: stillbirthday is considered a blog, which means that it has its own unique SEO features.  Similarly, as a blog, stillbirthday has easy access into various directories, aggregators, and syndication websites.  The site creator is also the site developer, so new articles are added easily and quickly.  Stillbirthday receives new stories to be added regularly, thus the site is constantly being updated and viewed for the newest content; search engines immediately index this new content, making it visible within 15 minutes of publishing.  Search engines favor frequently visited sites.  Stillbirthday has faithfully received well over 20,000 visitors every month since our opening in August, 2011 – this number has increased to 50,000 monthly since August 2012.  Our traffic and attention is huge, and it would benefit your company to be a part of pregnancy loss support by becoming a stillbirthday sponsor.

 

The SBD® Doula provides support to families experiencing birth in any trimester and in any outcome.

Here at stillbirthday.info, you can learn about the SBD® Doula.