Archives for May 2013

Born Still is Still Born

Shared by: Terra

Our Cowbaby

Shared by: Kurin

Elias Orion

Shared by: Brandy

Today marks the 1yr anniversary of my sweet little Elias passing into glory (joining a sibling who went before him by miscarriage).  He was a beautiful almost 5month old, oh how I miss him. This is a passage by Amy Carmichael which was a word that gave me hope during the time we were letting him go (he died after four days of being in a coma at the hospital, he stopped breathing that first day due to a blocked airway from a cold, they resuscitated him but not soon enough) anyway this is the passage, it’s kind of long but my favorite quotable part is the last line (we had it engraved on his grave stone).

There is one puzzle which comes to all thinking people when a little child is taken to be with the Lord. Did God not give that little one to his parents? We do not go back  on our gifts to each other. Does God? Milton got out of the difficulty by thinking of the little one as lent, “Render Him with patience what He lent”, but that is not the Bible way. Hannah puts it quite differently. She did not say she would giver her loan to the Lord. She said she would lend her gift. (1Samuel 1:28) And the Spirit of God caused it twice to be recorded that the gifts of God are real gifts (which loans are not).  “The gifts…of God are without repentance” (Romans 11:29) (“God never goes back on His gifts” is one translation of that). “Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, and comes down from the Father of lights, with Whom is no variableness, neither shadow of turning” (James 1:17) – no variableness, no alteration. He does not change His mind about His gifts to His children, but  sometimes He asks for the loan of one of these precious gifts. He does not tell us why He asks for it, He trusts us to trust His love – the love we know so well – and do trust,  and we lend our little treasure, “not grudgingly, or of necessity”, (2 Corinthians 9:7) but for love’s sake, willingly. And we know that He will return what we lent Him when we see Him in the Morning.  – Amy Carmichael, from Thou Givest – They Gather.

Elias Orion Ivy 12/29/2011 to 05/18/2012   And you shall know that I am the Lord, when I open your graves, and raise you from your graves, O my people. Ezekiel 37:13 …we shall see you in the Morning.

-Brandy Ivy, Mother of 5, three children here with me and 2 passed into glory awaiting the “Morning” when I shall have them back, when the Lord will raise them from their graves.

SBD Speaks

These are little photos that we share at our stillbirthday Facebook page, as a way to invite others to finding us here, directly at stillbirthday.  If you like any of these, you can find them – and more – at our Facebook page for sharing.

 

Heritage and Healing

Shared by: Mikayla

I recently had a miscarriage and soon after found out that I will not be able to have kids.

This was the only time I had ever been pregnant and I’m only 20 years old.

This was my way of reminding myself that I am strong and could make it through this and its my way of remembering my unborn child, also with the candy skull it shows my heritage of being Hispanic so I wanted to wrap my roots of my past with the roots of what would have been my future. . .

Our First Baby

Shared by: Mary Kate 

Anticipating Destiny

Shared by: Lemanuel

A Womandala, as part of the Mothering the Mourning collection of art and writing.

Brave Gift of God

Told by: Danielle

I was 17 weeks and 3 days, and it was time to find out what we where having.

My husband and I had a 2 year old son. Well I found out the weekend after mothers day 2011. Went into the ultrasound on a Monday, the day after Mothers day, and the ultrasound tech couldn’t find a heartbeat – and my biggest fear came true, that I had lost my baby.

Well the doctor told my husband and I we could deliver normal or have an d & c. Well when we got home I told my husband that I would like to do the delivery not the d & c.

Because I was so upset my husband set up the stuff with the doctor.  Well I had to go into the hospital on a Thursday morning, and had my baby boy Thursday night; it was May 12 2011. We named him Brayden Mattox –  the name means brave gift of God.

I had to stay at the hospital for a night but that was the absolute worst night of my life.

Six weeks after my baby boy got his angel wings I found out I was pregnant again and we had a girl, her name is Athena.

Cannon’s Candle

Shared by: Emily

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 This candle will burn all day today in honor & memory of Cannon Forrest , my son who is in heaven celebrating his 10th birthday !!

This is my memorial to the short life he lived, those 5 months of life will never be forgotten .

5-10-2003

These are Cannon’s feet.  5 months in utero.

Alphie and Tegan

Shared by: Jill

My son and daughters resting place.

We lost Alfie-Logan due to placental abruption on 21 august 2005 and then his big sister Tegan-Summer 14 months later at the age of 4 to pneumonia.

Not a minute goes by that I do not think of them and I also made a support group to support families and so on with grief support.

The SBD® Doula provides support to families experiencing birth in any trimester and in any outcome.

Here at stillbirthday.info, you can learn about the SBD® Doula.