Love Letters & Other Writings

 

Love Letters are beautiful ways of exploring our motherhood and our bereavement authentically.  They are ways we Mother Our Mourning.

 

We have several collections of Love Letters, including:

  • To your loved ones, for their support of you along your journey.  Rather than a series of thank you cards, one published message can be simpler for you.
  • To your beloved, deceased baby.
  • To your self or to your body.
  • To your spouse.
  • To your surviving and/or subsequent daughter (stillbirthday grandmothers/sisters).
  • To other parents who are rearing living children while grieving (we call this Holding Umbrellas).
  • To Another Mother (Hope): you can write a letter of validation, sisterhood, and hope to other mothers.
  • To Another Mother (PAL): Lindsey of Stillborn & Still Breathing has authored a special program called PAL Love Letters.  This is an opportunity for mothers who have experienced pregnancy after loss (PAL) to write a Love Letter to a fellow MOM who is pregnant again after loss.  You can offer hope, encouragement and information as you share with her what your journey of pregnancy after loss has been like.

Sharing Your Love Letters

In addition to writing Love Letters, we have ways for you to share your baby’s birth story, add your blog to our blog roll, and more.

Reading Your Love Letters Aloud

After you have written your Love Letter, you are invited to join us on the 10th of each month {this is the first day of the month that the “0” is seen} during an online gathering we call a “Stillbirthday Party” – where we read our letters aloud, through a special online meeting space held within Stillbirthday University.

 

Later, you can collect all of your letters together into one Still Parenting Journal.

This photo is from Dirty Footprints Studio,  a beautiful resource for creativity through bereavement.

Love Letters to My Daughter

Love Letters from Mothers to Our Daughters.
Stillbirthday Sisters
Stillbirthday Sisters, have a very, very special and important place in our stories.
If you are a stillbirthday mother, and you have a surviving or subsequent daughter, have you thought yet how your loss(es) might become a part of the way you think about or pray for your daughter’s future fertility?
The way you broach the subject of fertility with her, even?
This certainly includes the fertility of your son’s possible future fertility and his partner as well, but this collection of Love Letters is specifically about Stillbirthday Sisters, and about Stillbirthday Grandmothers.
Stillbirthday Grandmothers
It can be so heartwrenching, to seek to protect your daughter, while she is giving birth to her baby who is not alive.  Grieving your grandchildren while also aching for what your adult children are enduring can be enormous, and your pain and feelings can often seem overlooked or forgotten.  In this particular collection of Love Letters, you can write to your daughter, speak to her courage, her grace, and your love for her as you have an intimate view into her broken heart.
Love Letters
Mothers, you are invited, to write a Love Letter to your Daughter, and we can hold your letter at stillbirthday.  You can include your thoughts, fears, prayers, and hopes you might have for her. You can write your letter just by using our sharing tab.
This gorgeous photo was featured at Birth Without Fear

Love Letters to Me

In The Invisible Pregnancy, I challenge you as a mother to explore the intrinsic beauty and value of your body.  Mothering your mourning requires you to discover that you are valuable, that you are beautiful, that you are worthy.  To help inspire you to explore these, your sacred truths, and these challenging concepts of The Invisible Pregnancy, I’m inviting you to write love letters to you – to yourself, to your soul, or to your body.

Use this link to share a letter.  You may include photos.

I invite you, gently, respectfully, to learn to love your body, as a way to Mother Your Mourning.

 

And, you can read this collection of Love Letters, here.

Love Letters to Baby

Whether you are pregnant, or have already given birth to your baby, journaling Love Letters to your Baby can be tremendously healing and validating.  Different than your baby’s birth story, which you are invited to share as well, your Love Letters are the things you long to say, the feelings you experience and the love you have, just for your baby.

While we hold a section of letters for your living children – surviving, subsequent, and including a subsequent pregnancy, this particular section of letters just for those babies who are not alive.

You can share your Love Letter to Your Baby by using our sharing tab.

And, you can read this collection of Love Letters, here.

 

Love Letters to My Spouse

You two have been through a lot together.  Write him or her a love letter.

Just use our sharing tab, and it will be held here.

And, you can read this collection of Love Letters, here.

Love Letters from Your Doula

SBD doulas find an intricate balance between exploring their own unique journeys and supporting mothers through their most intimate experiences.  This results in a sacred orchestration of professionalism and personalized, individual and authentic support.

SBD doulas, while keeping all identifying aspects of experiences confidential, may have a desire to share with you, some of the rich feelings she has experienced while being part of your journey.  Here, SBD doulas can write Love Letters to Mothers.

SBD doulas, here is our information for Provider Care, where you can access more support as well.

And, you can read through this collection of Love Letters, here.

The SBD® Doula provides support to families experiencing birth in any trimester and in any outcome.

Here at stillbirthday.info, you can learn about the SBD® Doula.